Image of Connection
I was inspired by a course I am currently taking to interweave other forms of activation (imagery, poetry, music) to inspire or create meaningful shifts. This image is by Katie M. Berggren who paints intimate moments of motherhood. I invite you to sit with the image as feels right for you, simply notice with curiosity what comes up, and any guidance or message from your own internal wisdom as a parent.
Mindful of Our Own States of Wellbeing
I have parents ask me what does their child(ren)'s behaviour have to do with their own wellbeing. One of the most important things as a parent is self-care, and self-care in the deepest sense of the word. Self-care allows us to be tuned into our own states of being as they have an impact on our resonance out to the people around us, and this also connects to our own self-regulation. When we are in higher states of wellbeing we are better able to manage the stresses in our life and around us. When we show up with more balance, with more inner resources and in deep harmony with ourselves, it is amazing how our external worlds take shape differently. I invite you to think about what would support you to have more balance in your life? How can you support more inner peace, is meditation or mindfulness practices the answer?
When last weeks blog pertaining to self-care is given the time it needs. The motivation and ability to capture the small moments throughout childhood seems more feasible. This article was inspired by mother's sharing the challenges of capturing the small precious moments of the younger years in the reality of the expression of the days are long but the years are short. Below are a few ways of capturing some of the moments that are meaningful and precious to your child(ren)'s growth and changes:
1. Have a special journal designated to each child writing the date with the funny or cute moment (e.g. cute ways they said a word), developmental milestone they met, or other special achievements or first moments (e.g. first time riding bike).
2. Growth chart that the whole family is on, with each child having their height measured each birthday, and even half birthday if that resonates.
3. Yearly hand print painting that has different themes (e.g. handprints transformed into fish, birds, safari animals).
4. Picture collages on a Bristol board of key moments of the past year each birthday.
5. Writing your child a letter each birthday reflecting back on special moments of the year.
Self-Care on a Deeper Level
I came across this article recently and it really spoke to me. I feel it captures a deeper way of looking at self-care particularly for mother's, and highlights the true importance of nourishing ourselves in order to continue mothering. The article uses an interesting play on words that I see the possibility of resonating with many mothers "in order to mother well needing to fill the mother well". The article gives space to the diversity of what this means for each mother, nourishing ourselves on a deep level, and connecting to our divine selves.
I have been working with parents for over 10 years. I have learned a great deal from them as well as from parenting my own children. It has taught me that parenting is the most trying job there is, requires the support of a village, and with the right supports can be truly rewarding.